It's Time to Start Treating People Like Furniture
Updated: Sep 6, 2019
I'll admit it, I love home design shows. My favorite type are the restoration shows where they take old things and make them new again. It fits my view of the world, to be less of a consumer and more of a steward. All my life we have had those ads in our schools and on our televisions. Reduce, Reuse, Recycle. And the great thing about restoration show versus renovation shows is they embrace the three R's. The accept that a 100-year-old house is going to have scuffs, marks, and imperfections. They highlight the blemishes knowing that they make the house or furniture more beautiful. For in those marks is history, a story, character. The scars of the years reveal the beauty.
Why are we so blind to the same effect in people?
Distressed furniture is en vogue. People buy new furniture that is made to look like old furniture because they understand the value of character, of a story, of the history. My wife even showed me a $1500 pair of brand new sneakers made to look like they were old sneakers. But when it comes to people, we want them to hide all their imperfections. We want them to be clean, shiny, and with no story. Or at least no story that left scars.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Often this phrase is used to say no body can determine what is beautiful to another person. And that is true. But there is a stronger message, you can control what you find beautiful. I once found great monuments like the Taj Mahal beautiful. Or the great cathedrals of Europe. But when I discovered what they were, what was inside, what atrocities were committed to build them, I changed my mind. They are no longer beautiful to me.
It is time to change our mind on what is beautiful with people. Victims are not beautiful in spite of their scars, their scars make them beautiful. Physical, emotional, and spiritual. They are the real story, they are the history, they are the character, and they are the true beauty.